Choosing to LIVE LIFE without FEAR

 Hi Everyone, 

It's been over 6 months since my last blog post,,,wow it seems a very very long time ago doesn't it? Firstly to say I do hope that this finds you healthy in both mind and body. 

“The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.” — Mahatma Gandhi 

The world has really changed a lot in the last 6 months. Personally I have never witnessed the amount of extreme FEAR in society on my time on this planet. I am not going to mention the dreaded 'C' word, because I don't know about you but I think we have had enough of that word morning, noon and night since last March. So I am not going to add to that. Just to say that it seems right now that most people have become so 'FEARful' of dying that they have forgot to 'LIVE' life to it fullest. Instead I would like to take this opportunity to talk about a subject that I happen to know a lot about and that is FEAR, what it can do to your health and well being and how you can make some simple changes that will bring more happiness to your world during this time. 

 

Over the last 10 years in my Hypnosis practice, many people have come to see me to eliminate a fear whether it be a fear of flying,a fear of dogs, a fear of spiders, etc., the list goes on. These fears can cause a lot of anxiety, stress, worry, depression and even make people sick. One of the most vital requirements for us to be healthy is a strong immune system and 'fear' is one of the main ways to compromise this vital element to true health. Fear is a human emotion that is triggered by a perceived threat. It is a primitive survival mechanism that signals our bodies to respond to danger with a 'fight or flight response'. As such, it is a part of keeping us safe. However, when people live in constant fear it can lead to cardiovascular damage, ulcers, irritable bowel syndrome, accelerated ageing and even premature death.

Fear can also impair the formation of long-term memories and cause damage to certain parts of the brain, such as the hippocampus. This can make it even more difficult to regulate fear and can leave a person anxious most of the time. To someone in chronic fear, the world looks scary and their memories confirm that. Fear can also interrupt processes in our brains that allow us to regulate emotions, read non-verbal cues and other information presented to us, reflect before acting, and act ethically. This impacts our thinking and decision-making in negative ways, leaving us susceptible to intense emotions and impulsive reactions. All of these effects can leave us unable to act in a productive way and make bad life choices. It makes us want to hide away from the world and not leave the house. 

So how to overcome FEAR? Well first of all remember that live exists only in the 'moment'. As the old saying goes, 'yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery', all we have is the now,,this moment right NOW. Life is precious and the key is living every moment to it's fullest without fear. Fear only comes into it when we are either worried about something that has happened in the past or something that may or may not happen in the future. Be mindful that all we have really is the current moment and we have the power to choose the directions of our thoughts, emotions and live without fear. Yes, it is true, life will never be risk free. Would we really want it to be though? ,, it would all be a bit predictable and boring wouldn't it? If you decide to cling to safety, that makes you a prisoner of your fear. You’re just limiting your own potential to live a full life.  

 

Use the power of your mind and direct your thoughts to relieve your fear. Our thoughts to a great extent, create our reality. And positive 'action' will really help, even if small....like something as simple as changing your breathing can help you calm down. Taking a walk in nature, turning off the TV (this one is a must), listening to music, standing out in a shower or rain, growing your own food, talking to a friend on the same wavelength as you,,, these are all great ways to feeling alive. Start to put your focus on what could go 'right, rather than what could go 'wrong'.  So drop the Fear and start living fully today, your future self will thank you for it! Choose life! I hope you have enjoyed this blog post...until next time ..stay sane :)

“In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.”
                  — Abraham Maslow 

© Trevor Eivers 2020     

My name if Trevor Eivers and I am based in Waterford, Ireland. I am a Certified Consulting Hypnotist (since 2010) with the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), which is the largest hypnosis body in the world with over 14,000 members in 83 different countries worldwide. I am also a Certified NLP practitioner. I love my job in which I help everyday people with everyday issues. Contact me at 086-8211677 or check me out online at waterford-hypnosis.com or Facebook at : https://www.facebook.com/pages/Trevor-Eivers-Hypnosis/177881245578285

 

 

 

 

Communicate for HAPPINESS and JOY

Hi Everyone, Firstly I would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year and all the very best for 2020.....for my first blog post of the new year I would like to talk about .... 'communication' ...and I will be giving some tips on how you can improve your communication skills and approaches, to make it a happier and joyful 2020 for both you and those around you! 

So....Communication... verbal communication.....non verbal communication.....personal communication...power communication...it all boils down to the same thing....if we want our lives to be happier in our personal relationships, it helps to be good at it!

'No man is an island', because the truth is we can all be dependent on each other. Even those we disagree with. All our lives are based on relationships no matter what we do. Communication is an exchange of opinions, thoughts and ideas, via speaking, writing or demonstrating. We must communicate with our family, friends, employer, employees, clients or customers every day of our lives. It is important to understand that communication is a two way flow, an exchange; and that every action has a reaction. Communication is not one way. We need feedback from the person on the receiving end of our communication effort.  It is also a good idea to keep in mind the concept that everything is energy and what we put out we get back, I feel there is a great deal of truth to this. But that is for another blog. So lets get deeper into 'communication'.....

Non verbal communication (or 'body language') is closely akin to our 'self communication', since it is often the outermost sign of our innermost feelings, both conscious and subconscious. So it is important to understand the meaning of our gestures and those of others and be consciously aware of how we feel within ourselves, because our internal reality tends to reflect our external reality. We can then use this wisdom to build communication bridges in our communications with others. 

The modern world has made communication more difficult, as with the advent of mobile phones and the internet, these days it is all too common, that instead of meeting a person face to face or even calling them on the phone, we send phone texts or social media messages, usually without really thinking. It is quite commonly accepted that 55% of communication is body language, 38% is the tone of voice, and only 7% is the actual words spoken. Therefore when you send someone a message via text or Facebook, it is the poorest form of communication and is very open to crossed wires, misunderstandings and conflict. It might be easier in the short term (and at times more convenient) not to face someone by sending them a quick text (which has it's place of course) but there is nothing like looking into someones eyes or hearing their tone of voice. You can use the exact same words in the same order, but change the 'tone of voice' and the meaning changes. Also, keep in mind your state or mind and mood while corresponding with people on social media and/or the phone. Your response/reaction to a message and what meaning you take from it, can be very much dependent on whether you are feeling happy or sad, cheerful or gloomy.

So this is my first tip. Instead of sending someone a message on Facebook, perhaps make that extra time and effort to phone them or even better meet them for a coffee. I know from personal experience that a conflict that might arise easy on social media and unnecessarily escalate to unsolvable proportions, can be resolved very quickly with a face to face meet up. In fact before the age of phone/social media this is how long term friendships thrived. More over I have personally found that, in general, the less time spent on social media/phone they happier I am. It's not only the communication part of it, but it is addictive and you would be surprised how much time is wasted and consumed because if it. My experience of course...

My second tip is this....How many times do you find yourself with crossed arms, feet firmly planted apart, and back as straight as an arrow while someone is trying to tell you something? This body language says "I'm shutting you off"; "Prove it"; "I'm close minded to what you are saying". This is one sure fire way of alienating someone. Instead, I suggest keep an open mind. There is an old saying "We are born with two ears and one one mouth, use them in proportion" and I feel this is very true.  Agree before you disagree, and try to agree more than you disagree. Ask people for their opinions. Be genuinely interested in their point of view. Build the person up by respecting his or her opinion or knowledge. You will get it back tenfold, and dialogue will be a lot more productive. Also remember peoples first names, they are important to people. We are often to quick to judge and we 'hear' people but don't 'listen'; to often just waiting for them to finish speaking to get our point of view across. We live in an age of 'opinions', yes everyone has one, but it's a good philosophy to have, to understand that none of us have all the answers and we could be wrong about different things. So it's really best to keep that 'belief system' (and opinions within it) fluid and open to change. Of course respectfully agreeing to differ' (which seems to becoming less and less the dynamic of the world we live in.....social media for example Facebook seems to be full of judgemental 'know it alls' quite happy to tell you how to live your life) is also a great thing! As the great man himself Dr. Wayne Dyer once said: “If you have the choice between being right and being kind, choose being kind”.

Last but not least, learn to laugh about life...laugh with others.... and don't take yourself too seriously...look at negative situations and conflict as challenges and opportunities to grow (stronger). Always look for solutions not for problems. Develop a warm feeling for people and let this come through physically with smiling eyes and mouth! Sincerely, life is too short to be anything other that happy. Every day is an new opportunity to live life and make a difference, both to yourself and others around you. By improving your communication skills by taking on these tips, you may find your internal happiness and joy for life will increase. :) 

I hope you have enjoyed this blog. Check out my new website that is now live at: waterford-hypnosis.com . I have been meaning to do it for a long time and like the old saying goes if you want something done, do it yourself and after a lot of time and effort I did that! I am very pleased with the results, so enjoy!  

© Trevor Eivers 2020     

My name if Trevor Eivers and I am based in Waterford, Ireland. I am a Certified Consulting Hypnotist (since 2010) with the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), which is the largest hypnosis body in the world with over 14,000 members in 83 different countries worldwide. I am also a Certified NLP practitioner. I love my job in which I help everyday people with everyday issues. Contact me at 086-8211677 or check me out online at waterford-hypnosis.com or Facebook at : https://www.facebook.com/pages/Trevor-Eivers-Hypnosis/177881245578285